I recently published a post entitled “Moderate Faith” in which I expressed the position that I believe even moderate faith has a detrimental net effect on society, and additionally, allows radical faith to thrive, since both versions of belief are based upon subjective interpretations of the same book.
I received a comment from a fellow law school student and what follows is my response to the comment. This method of answering is called “fisking” and while it may appear choppy and disjointed, it allows to me to address each portion of the comment. To see the comment in its entirety, go here. In this post, Kate’s words are in red.
Dear Kate —
Thank you for reading the blog and for posting. I enjoyed your comment on so many levels, not the least of which was your overall tone, which made it seem that you really were trying to understand what I was expressing. As parents, we have both learned how very critical it is to be heard and understood, even if it leads to disagreement.
Reading this post, I think I finally get what atheists are trying to do when they talk like this to believers–you think you are trying to save us from ourselves and to save the world from us, aren’t you? I always thought you were condescending, puffed up, and self-righteous in your own way. But, I think I see it differently now. You say this stuff out of genuine concern, don’t you?
Yes. This so much. Genuine concern for our communities, our society, our country, our world. Yes yes yes yes yes. That’s not to say that atheists are not condescending, puffed up, and self-righteous. We absolutely are. In fact, at our various conventions (the secular activist community in our country is an alphabet soup of organizations) we always address that: Should we be kind and conciliatory or brash and aggressive? Be a dick or a diplomat? A firebrand or ambassador? The speaker always leads us through the conversation: How can we reach the most people with the message that reason and science will take us so much closer to peace, joy, and happiness than religion ever will? The conclusion is almost always the same: be yourself. Different messages will reach different people at different places on the continuum.
All of that to say Yes. We say these things out of genuine concern.
“Have you been saved?” (Don’t worry, I am not asking you that question.) That is what I hear all the time from evangelical Christians. They get angry at the LDS concept of grace, that Christ saves us through grace after all we can do ourselves to live his commandments and his gospel. They get angry because they think we diminish God and aggrandize ourselves, that we try to save ourselves through our own efforts. That is not it. We believe that the resurrection is a free gift of God to all, but that salvation of our souls is something for which we have to put forth effort, that our effort will never be enough though, and that Christ makes up the difference if we follow him. Bear with me, I know this is not a religious discussion on grace, nor am I trying to convert you. I am setting up an example.
Kate, you asked for me to bear with you, and I will, but I have to interject this here. I don’t give 2 flips about whether salvation is through grace alone, or grace + works, or works alone, or whatever. Here’s why: I don’t need salvation, because I’m not lost. I’m not broken or incomplete or unworthy. And I don’t believe I need saving from something that occurs after death. I don’t believe that we survive our own deaths, as there is no evidence whatsoever that our brains continue to function (which is where all of everything that makes us uniquely ourselves resides – our memories, our personality, our knowledge) after we have died.
My former step-daughter is truly distraught over the future of her half-sister, her father, her new step-mother, her step-brother, and maybe even of me. She truly believes that we will burn in hell for eternity. She happens to love these people in her family, and it is distressing to her. So, she tries to save us.
I’m glad you’ve put this paragraph in here. I don’t know the specifics of your family’s faith, but I can assume it includes fear of eternal damnation to hell for unbelief. I can understand why your step-daughter is distraught. If I thought anyone, much less one of my family members, was going to suffer that fate, I would be more than distraught; I would be hysterical.
Lifelong exposure to this little piece of theology has hardened our hearts against this complete and utter barbaric and unjust cruelty, cruelty not only to the unsaved sinner, but to those commissioned with the responsibility for preventing it from occurring. There is not a believer on earth, who as a child did not have terrors about this: either going to hell ourselves or not being able to keep out of hell someone we loved. And conceptually, the idea that a creator would create you with a mind capable of critical thought, give no evidence of his existence, actually allow evidence for the opposite, demand that you not only believe on no evidence but to LOVE HIM, and then condemn you to hell, eternally, for acting on that very logic and reason is beyond cruel. It’s sadistic.
You are trying to save our souls too, aren’t you? (Or, since you likely don’t believe in souls since they are not tangible or testable, our minds?) You are trying to save our world? You think we will destroy it?
Hell to the yes. You already are. So many major problems in the world have a religious background. There’s hardly a war that has been fought that was not fought because God was on each army’s side, and was compelling the battle. Look at present sub-Saharan Africa, and the suffering there because the Catholic church refuses to condone or support condom use. Look at inequality in America – is there a single secular reason for not allowing gay marriage? Look at the suffering of women at the hand of religion, and not just Islam. Mainstream Christianity still teaches that women are not equal to men, and we fight this in the arena of equal pay, reproductive rights, and lack of sexual autonomy. I haven’t even mentioned radical Islam and its costs, and the religious world can’t help with this, because they are claiming EXACTLY what you are claiming: This is what this book says to me about how to live my life, and here are the verses that endorse it.
This might be a good time to reflect upon the statistics from the most and least religious countries. In every metric that can be measured, those countries with the most secular societies pass by leaps and bounds those same metrics in countries where religion is at high levels.
I try to reassure my step-daughter. I will try to reassure you. Goodness and love and progress will win out over hate, if we keep working together–the faithful and the secularists/atheists working together.
Read what you wrote. “Goodness and love and progress will win out over hate”. Agreed. Where in that statement is anything about God? These are the attributes promoted by every secular humanist I know: To be kind. To promote education. To be fair. To care about one another. To work together. And winning out over hate? Where is that hate coming from? Think it might be from religious instruction and the tribalism endorsed over and over and over in the Bible? From the idea that anyone who doesn’t share your belief is wrong or misguided or deceived, or worse, has rejected your beliefs? That’s a hop, skip, and a jump from contempt, and that’s edging ever-so-much-closer to hate.
Just as you have heard the “What if you are wrong?” question too many times, don’t you think we know about the murders in the Bible and wars throughout the ages committed in the name of God? Trust me, we have. Trust me, we grapple with it. You are right. It is problematic. We know that. Most of us have likely grappled with God on those very issues. We are not stupid nor are we naive or willingly self-blindfolded.
If you’ve read this blog long enough, you know that I am a former believer. I don’t have to trust you that you struggle with it. I know. I had the same struggle. I wish believers could hear the stories shared among the secular, particularly those still recovering from religion. There are those former believers, clergy included, who left the faith screaming and clawing and desperately trying to hold on, knowing they were leaving the comfort of the familiar, knowing they couldn’t go back, but terrified to go forward.
Keep thinking, Kate, and keep trying to figure it out. Why would God have acted that way? Why would he have instructed soldiers to “dash infants to the ground” and “take the women as your bounty”? Why would he currently bless you and your family with health and wealth and allow little brown children an ocean away to die hungry and crying at the rate of 1 every 3.6 seconds? What is the most reasonable answer? What is in keeping with what the writers of the Bible were trying to do? Wars are much easier to win with tales of God being on your side. To what does the evidence point?
Do me a little favor, an experiment. Slip on your God Is Manmade goggles for just a minute and take a look around. Does the world make more sense? Does the universe act exactly as the universe would act if there was no God? Does the empty inconsistency of prayer make much more sense? Does our evolutionary heritage, and our tiny place in the cosmos fit into context much better? Does the claim by each and every religion on the planet that it alone is the One True Way fit flawlessly into the culture from which it emerged? Are the historical and scientific errors of the Bible now explained?
Rather than the evangelicals trying to convert you (and me) and rather than you trying to “convert” the evangelicals (and me), I repeat my former question: Can’t we trust each other to have thought deeply about these issues and then join hands and work to make this world a better place, standing on a foundation of so many things we do agree on?
I want to trust that you have thought deeply about those things. I really do. But when I question you (the broader You) about the atrocities and inconsistencies of the Bible, you agree that they are terrible, and that they promote divisiveness. You agree that there is a decidedly anti-education and anti-science bias in the Bible. You agree that the Bible models the repression of women and indoctrinates children. You agree that there is really no evidence for the existence of God, and that yes, a lot of evidence points to all indications that there is no God.
And then you say you believe it anyway, and when I ask why, you say I DON’T KNOW, IT’S JUST ON FAITH.
This is not noble. This is not virtuous. We wouldn’t accept that in a classroom, we wouldn’t accept it in a laboratory, and as a future lawyer you know we wouldn’t accept that in a courtroom.
Murder, war, carnage = bad
Dishonesty, taking unfair advantage = bad
Hate, prejudice, meaness, ignoring = bad
Torture = bad
Love = good
Care = good
Feeding the hungry = good
Taking care of Mother Earth = good
Helping those who need help = good
Building communities = good
Working = good
Finding cures to diseases = good
So much good to work towards together . . .
Kate, I think you and I could both come up with examples of the things on your good list that have been done by churches. I did them myself when I was a member of a church. Churches and religion have done good things. But it comes with such a price. All of the stuff on the bad list? Religion has done those things too. And doing the good things doesn’t require religion. When the secular community gives, it isn’t because of a commandment. It isn’t because of fear. It isn’t because we are after eternal loyalty. It’s because we’re moved to compassion by the suffering of another human being. That’s it.
Furthermore, what are the greatest barriers to doing all those things up there in your Good list? What’s the barrier to building communities? It’s not the atheists that are saying Everybody But Gay. What’s the barrier to finding cures to diseases? It’s not the atheists who are saying Stem Cell Research makes baby Jesus cry. What’s the barrier to caring for the earth? It’s not the atheists who believe in Dominionism.
If I want to know how to deny the existance of God and rely solely on mankind’s intellect, I know who to ask. If you want to know how to turn towards God and use both faith and intellect, you know who to ask. I trust that you are smart enough to know when you want to know that. I am smart enough to know when I want to know that.
The audacity of this paragraph. The idea that you are smart enough to know “when you want to know”. I know this is not a typo or a misspoken statement. I know you meant it like you wrote it. In a very important relationship I had that was coming to an end over our difference of belief, I asked “If it’s not true, wouldn’t you want to know it?”. The answer was: “No. Absolutely not.” I don’t blog about that relationship, but I will say at that moment, my heart broke.
Kate, when you write something like that, you reveal exactly the problem with faith. I know why you want to continue to believe. I know it’s big and scary to face life without religion. But hear me now: I promise you with everything I am that the darkness is worth walking through. The light, and air, and joy, and life that is on the other side of that tunnel is cleaner and deeper and brighter than anything religion could ever bring you. The world is more beautiful. People are more precious. Moments are so much more valuable, and for me, life makes sense. Consider this quote by the magnificent Robert G. Ingersoll:
“When I became convinced that the Universe is natural – that all the ghosts and gods are myths, there entered into my brain, into my soul, into every drop of my blood, the sense, the feeling of the joy of freedom. The walls of my prison crumbled and fell, the dungeon was flooded with light and all the bolts, and bars, and manacles became dust.”
So I ask you: If it’s not true, wouldn’t you want to know it?
So, let’s move on and work together on what we agree about! You are concerned about my mind and the world, and I am concerned about your eternal happiness and eternal progress and the world. We both care about each other’s welfare. Okay, we understand that. We know whom to turn to if we need to.
By the way, I don’t follow your blog just to comment on posts like this. But, so far, these are the only posts that have prompted my comments. I started following your blog, believe it or not, because I felt we had a lot in common. I love fitness, I am a single mother of a teenager, and I am finishing up my second year of law school as someone who went back to school a little bit older than the average student. I still believe we have a lot in common, and I look forward to seeing your blog posts. I hope school is going well and all your other wonderful pursuits!
Oh, and if I am correct in my new hypothesis, that atheists sound like this out of care and concern for believers–thank you for that care and concern.
Kate, I know my response has been harsh. I’ve written and edited and rewritten, trying to find a way to say I’m OK, You’re OK. But I think religion is a net negative for our society, our nation, and the world. It stands in the way of peace and progress, and rather than fight it on every front, it’s my intention to work toward cutting the head off the snake.
And if I haven’t completely lost you as a potential friend, I’d love to chat about law school (I’m in my 3rd year), the joys of teenagerhood (mine are now all spectacular adults), and the love affair we have with fitness and nutrition.
Thank you in again for having read the blog, and for taking the time to respond. I have stalked your blog (and assume it’s ok to post it as it is included in your comment) and I relate to so much you have written.
To everyone else…thanks for reading.